FitBit Cat-Fight

Earlier this week I posted an article about not cheating in FitBit challenges and that you should earn your steps.  I’ve been in tons of challenges and have won some and lost some. I’ve been in challenges with people who bust their butts in order to keep them active and moving, and I’ve been in challenges with people who do whatever they can to earn first place…including cheating.  These people freely admit that they cheat (well, some of them freely admit it) and find it humorous to knock each other out of first place on an ongoing basis.  I really couldn’t care less if I’m in first or second or seventh place, as long as I know I’m doing what I can do to keep my activity up and earning my place – wherever it may be.

Unfortunately, I’ve received some backlash in relation to that post, and one woman in particular has taken great offense to the post.  A woman I have never met, do not know, and likely will never meet in my lifetime.  Here’s what happened:  I created a challenge earlier in the week.  I invited a friend (we’ll call her Bonnie) and she invited a friend (Clyde) and Clyde invited this woman (we’ll call her Jane).  When I shared my post to my Bonnie’s Facebook wall she tagged a few of her friends so that they could also read it.  I got a lot of positive feedback from her friends, as well as from others I shared the post with (and from the blog itself**). However, this one woman, Jane, commented something along the lines of “no cheating here if that was implied”.  Since I don’t know Jane I did not respond.  My post was shared with Bonnie and others simply because we were currently in a challenge together and thought it might be of interest for her to read.  I should also note that Bonnie is a BeachBody coach and inspiring people with her own fitness journey.

Shortly after her comment, Jane removed it and added something else about her weight loss – which I commend her for.  From there, it seems all hell broke loose.  As I continued on with my day, my step count continued to go up.  My coworker and I have been walking on our lunch break since the winter.  I will note that my current coworker Boo Boo is filling a maternity leave for my BFF/coworker Spanky and for a good portion of last year and thru most of her pregnancy, Spanky and I would run on our lunch breaks – so lunchtime fitness is nothing new.  In addition, since the start of the summer and since I began physio for my ongoing back injury, I have been dragging my butt out of bed bright (not quite) and early every morning and walking several kilometers before getting ready for work.  Since race season is starting back up, I need to condition myself to get back into running after stopping for several months to allow my back to heal.  And in addition to all of this, I have been doing a lot of dog-walking/hiking with another friend Dora since the Spring when there was still snow on the ground.  This is all on top of my regular gym time and teaching boot camp and fitness classes.  Therefore, my step count each day is pretty high.  That’s just my life.

When I went to bed Wednesday night, I had a high step count.  I had gotten in several walks that day, taught my boot camp class (in 34 degree heat, mind you) and finished the night off with a near 10k hike with Dora, not arriving home until after 10:30.  I don’t keep data turned on on my cell phone and I turn it off at night (I have a house phone) , so when I turned my cell phone on in the morning, I was about 10 or 12 thousand steps ahead of Jane.  Apparently, Jane did not like that my step count was higher than hers as she posted in the challenge that I was a “looser” (eep! Loser?) and a cheater and then she quit the challenge.

But Jane took it further.  She called me out, indirectly, of course so that I had no way to defend or explain myself.  She posted some nasty stuff about me on her private Facebook page – naming me specifically, calling me a cheater and saying it was disheartening because I’m a fitness coach and saying that I didn’t like that she had blown by me, etc.  Of course, since I don’t know, therefore am not friends with Jane, I had no way of seeing these posts publicly – until others starting sending me private messages with screenshots of her post and comments.  My blood pressure went through the roof!  Thankfully, severally people came to my defense stating that perhaps I don’t sync my steps at night and yadda yadda yadda.  And, Bonnie and Clyde totally defended me and shamed her for her comments about me.  They both commended me on my abilities as a trainer and as a fitness professional and that her very public comments could hurt my credibility as a trainer.  (Thank you lovely ladies for that!)

Jane also made comments that I joined the challenge and took it over and that she never would have joined if she knew it was all trainers.  Clyde responded that Jane was wrong – that I, FB, created the challenge and that she, Clyde, invited her, Jane, and that it wasn’t all trainers.  In fact, I, FB, had only invited a few people – most of us who have sedentary jobs – in order to motivate each other to keep moving.  It wasn’t until Jane had joined the challenge that it turned into something so freakin’ dramatic.  I believe Bonnie or Clyde may also have pointed out to Jane that she had had no problem with this challenge and the step count while she was in the lead and it wasn’t until that morning with my additional 10,000 steps that she had lost her cool.

I also want to mention that, after Jane called me a “looser” and a cheater that I sent her a message stating that I work my ass off each and every day to achieve my fitness goals and that I had not cheated and I invited her to spend a day with me so she could see first hand how I earn my steps.  Of course, however, I received no response.

It’s unfortunate that a FitBit challenge and a blog post could cause such hoopla.  And, admittedly, perhaps my article comments went too far, but I meant no offense to anyone and if anyone took offense to my writing, then for that I apologize.  That being said, Jane was the only person from the many my WordPress stats show who’ve read the post who became defensive.  My theory on that is if you’ve done nothing wrong (ie. cheat), then why are you getting so upset.  Again, if I am wrong, I sincerely apologize.

Any challenge I’ve created as a fitness professional – or just as a regular Joan – FitBit Goal Days, Boot Camp Bingos, etc, have been meant to be kept lite.  They’re supposed to be fun ways to motivate yourself and each other to stay on track and get up and move.  They’re not meant to bring anyone down.  For Heaven’s sake – it’s a FitBit Challenge!! I shouldn’t be receiving hate comments (I expect those only in my boot camp classes and only in jest).

So, for those of you who’ve defended me, thank you.  For those of you who’ve participated, thank you.  And for those of you who continue to support each other, thank you!

Keep it lite, folks.

**One positive outcome from all of this incredible drama is that it caught the eye of a company in the US and they have asked me to write a guest post for their online site.  Stay tuned later this week for the upcoming article.

~FB

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You’re Good Enough!

I had a conversation with another fitness professional recently and we were discussing how “haters gonna hate” (although we were more eloquent than that).

When you make the decision to change your life and to become a healthier person, there will always be someone – that one person – who will do whatever he or she can to keep you down.

I can attest to this.

After I’d made some changes and began eating better and exercising, I lost weight very quickly and my overall health changed.  Everyone was really supportive of me, my decisions, and my lifestyle.  Except one person.

This person, for whatever reason, wanted to make me feel bad for feeling good.  In fact, this individual even made a public comment that I looked sick and had “gone too far”.

Really?  I gave my life a makeover and worked my butt off to get healthy. Before that  was overweight, sedentary, and basically ate garbage.  But suddenly, now I’d gone too far?

good-enough

While you will always have tons of support while on your road to good health, you will also encounter a few people who jerks and will work to bring you down.  Either they’ll throw out a hurtful comment or a snide remark, or will just talk shit about you behind your back.  The truth is – and again, I’m calling a spade a spade – these few people are dissatisfied with their lives.  They’re jealous that you look and feel so damn good, and that you have accomplished (read: earned!) so much, and they, for whatever reason, don’t want to put in the effort to do the same for themselves.  So, in turn, they want to discourage you in hopes that they can bring you back down to their level.  DON’T LET THEM.

And if you need to, shake ’em off.

Remember, as always, You’re Worth It!

~FB

#youreworthit!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Encourage Each Other

Encourage

Every day someone you know will start an exercise program.  Be supportive of him or her.  Regardless of whether you think the person will succeed or stick with it.

Frankly, it’s none of your business.  That person is trying.  And whether he/she is setting him/herself of for failure is not a significant factor.  What is significant is that he/she is trying.

Give this person your support.  Give this person some encouragement.  A lot of the time that’s all that is needed for success.

So often we are more than happy to discourage other people.  We are too quick to jump on a person’s aspirations and beat them down.  I’ve had my fair share of beat downs – plenty of people back in the day who told me my weight loss journey was going to fail.  Pffft!  Look at me now!

We are about to enter a new year.  Let’s all make a resolution to be a little nice and encouraging and lend some admiration to those who are just beginning their journeys.  A kind word and a pat on the back is, perhaps, all it will take to keep them going.

~Fit Bitch

 

Stonger

This last session of my boot camp classes I was super stoked to finally have a guy register.  I’ve been wanting to ‘enlist’ a boy for a while but I’ve come to realize that most guys aren’t really into group fitness (I also don’t think they realize how tough my classes actually are), so I was excited to have my first male participant.

His name is Luke and he said his wife registered him in order to get him in gear to join the military and get ready for his basic training.

Luke came to the classes and admitted to us that he wasn’t big on exercise, although he’d been doing some P90X videos.  He did great.  I don’t know what he initially thought of my class before his first day but I’m certain that he came, he saw, he participated, he was impressed.

In mid-September Luke got his call – he’d be heading off to basic training on October 10.  He finished up what classes he could and then he was gone.

Last week I got a message from Luke:  “I passed the military fitness test! Thanks for helping with that.”

I was so happy for him.  I don’t think Luke believed that he could do it.  But he did.  Way to go!

Easier~Fit Bitch

Rain or Shine

I have news:  I started teaching outdoors boot camp this summer. Yay me!  There’s more to it (my news, I mean) but very quickly I’m going to leave you with this:

This summer has been crazy hot.  I mean, sizzling hot. And sticky. And gross. But my boot camp troops have hung in there and worked out with me in 32 degree heat. (Water people, drink lots and lots and lots of water!!)

AND

We’re worked out in the piss-pouring rain, too.  Nothing has stopped us.  We’ve found shelter when we needed it and we’ve trudged through.  And we’ve had a B.L.A.S.T.!!!  

Bad Weather

 

Lose the excuses.  When you’re willing to put in the time and effort (without making excuses), you’ll be ready to change your life.

🙂

~Fit Bitch

 

…In the Meantime

Hello Bloggers!

I’ve been recovering from a back injury the last (nearly) 2 weeks and, although I’ve kept up with my workouts (only missed one day!) I’ve had to do a lot of modifying and haven’t wanted to sit at a desk any longer than what my day job requires.  Therefore, no posts.

But it seems that I’m on the mend (fingers crossed) and hopefully I’ll be able to give my workouts 100 percent soon – although I’m not going to push it.  A back injury is serious enough and I don’t need to make it any worse.

So, in the meantime here’s a little inspiration:

FitAnd isn’t that so true?  When I’m around people who are talking exercise and clean eating and health, it’s all I want to do and eat and say.

Here’s a little story tho, a few years ago on my personal blog site I was talking about fitness and exercise and all that jazz and one of my friends commented something like “You know, you talk way too much about exercise.  It’s really annoying.”  To which I replied something to the effect “Well, exercise and fitness are things I’m really passionate about and honestly, has been really good for my mental health.”  She then replied “Well your constant talk about exercise is really bad for my mental health!”……………………..Um, okay.

What it broke down to, and she admitted to me later, was that she was having trouble hearing about fitness and my weight loss journey because she’s overweight and wasn’t willing to do anything about it.  (Hello, problem solved!)   Eventually she did ask me for help with losing weight and to be inspirational to her.  I told her I was more than happy to help aim her in the right direction and do whatever else if she was willing to listen to me.  Well, that sort of worked: we got her a gym membership and she went for about 3 or 4 months (a great start for anyone, by the way) but she wasn’t willing to change her eating habits.  One who does not EVER consume fruits or vegetables (EVER!!) will not lose weight or get fit OR HEALTHY on fried foods, and simply meat and sugar.  It’s unhealthy and quite honestly, it’s just gross.

I don’t do negativity well.  I like being around happy people and people who are often going to share in the same likes and hobbies, etc.  We inspire each other.  We push each other.  We encourage each other.  I don’t want my life or my blog to ever be negatively impacting to someone else.  I will never discourage or disparage anyone for their weight, size, level of fitness or the like.  If you want encouragement, I’m here for you.  If my success is detrimental to your mental health than more than likely there’s something else going on with you.

Wishing each of you success in your endeavors.

~Fit Bitch